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jackandthewerewolf:

am trying to show people the importance of using protection. I never thought I’d get an STD and was naive. Honestly, I’m lucky I got a curable one. It isn’t lame to tell the guy to use protection, acting in the moment for a short pleasure isn’t worth possibly getting a life long STD. It can happen to you and it only takes having unprotected sex with one person.

Truth. I’ve also been very lucky that the only STD I’ve gotten was curable, and I only one. I’m not sure now how many people I may have passed it to before I even knew or showed symptoms. 

But, lest I give the impression STDs are easy to deal with, or that only unsafe people get them, I’ll share another story. I had a friend who contracted oral herpes early in life, from being sexually assaulted. After diagnosis my friend tried to do the right thing, tell potential partners before any physical encounter. But this led to constant rejection and after a while the isolation and loneliness overrode the conscience and they had sex with people without ever telling them, before or after. That break of conscience added tons of guilt to the sadness. But not enough to override the normal human drive for contact.

Now think how many of those people could spread something they didn’t even know they had, including to their families through just kissing. Try to remember that not only do you not ever truly know your partner’s status, they might not either.

Safer sex isn’t about not trusting your partners, it’s about knowing you are both worth protecting from potential hazards. And if they would argue against your health, you have to ask, who benefits from that? Certainly not you, physically or emotionally.

It’s also worth noting that I am still here to share this with you. Mostly from pure chance, but I like to think that removing this learned habit of unnecessarily hazardous actions helped me get here. My friend, on the other hand, committed suicide last year.

I miss my friend. I started crying as I’m writing this.

Please be safe, I don’t want to miss you too.

These two videos are worth the two minutes. Even I learned something new. How to use a condom How to use a dental dam